The Downside of Loyalty
There’s a lot of talk in the business world about how to increase loyalty. I want to turn it around and talk about when loyalty goes too far.
On the surface, loyalty—defined as devoted allegiance and support—sounds like a noble concept. But you can be too loyal to just about anything: a job, relationship, hairstyle, wardrobe, habit, strategy, or even a belief.
How to Tell if You are Too Loyal
Ideally, the object of your loyalty rewards you with equal or greater rewards and positive energy and emotions than you put in. While some people are commitment-phobes, easily jumping from job-to-job or person-to-person, other people are like barnacles on a ship—you have to scrape them off to break the attachment. For example, once we Scorpios commit to someone or something (to make a grand generalization) we’ll doggedly defend it with all our heart and determination for better or worse.
Grow or Wither
You are too important, and your energy too scarce, to allocate your loyalties in ways that don’t support you.
Staying loyal to a relationship, job, habit, or situation that doesn’t help you grow is like pouring water on a dead plant, expecting it to grow fruit. You end up resentful of the plant for the fact that you’re dying of thirst and hunger.
To determine if your loyalty is misplaced, ask yourself:
- Is this attachment helping me grow?
- Are the rewards I receive equal to or greater than the energy I put in?
- Do I feel energized by the loyalty?
You’re either growing or dying—there’s no in-between.
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