Recipe For Brilliance

by BrillianceInc | Building Teams, Career Satisfaction, Coaching, Developing Others, Employee Engagement, Leadership, Management, Newsletter Archives, Optimal Results, Personal Development, Science of Leadership, Strengths Comments | 0

Are you in the zone? You know..that place where you feel energized. Where you like going to work, where you feel a sense of fulfillment, satisfaction, and gratitude. If you’re not living there, how far away are you? Around the block? Next County? Neighboring planet? For managers, how would your employees answer?

When we ask program participants and clients about times when they felt in the zone, nearly all can name one. Barely anyone claims to there now. And survey research supports this observation. According to a Gallup poll, more than 70 percent of people are disengaged from their job.

There are several key ingredients to peak performance. Knowing them can make it easier to diagnose what’s missing.

Recipe at-a-Glance: One part S (Strengths) to four parts P (Passion, Purpose, Preferences, Progress).

One Part ‘S’

1. Strengths:
In every peak moment, you will find that you are doing what you do best. Strengths may be learned skills or innate abilities. Either way, they are things that you excel at. Sometimes it’s hard to notice your own strength because it comes easily to you. What comes easily to you – public speaking, playing music, interpersonal skills, listening, remembering and using data – is terrifyingly difficult for others. Where you exhibit grace, others stumble or exert more effort for the same or less outcomes.

Ways to determine strengths:

  • Take an inventory assessment: Gallup’s StrengthsFinder or Highlands Ability Battery are good options
  • Recall what tasks at work you do most effortlessly

Four Parts P [Read more...]

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Recognize Incremental Growth

by Denise Green | Coaching, Communication, Developing Others, Employee Engagement, Feedback, Gratitude, Management, Neuroleadership, Personal Development, Strengths Comments | 2

Instant Improvement?

This week I accompanied my husband to his Lasik (vision correction) surgery. It took me back 13 years to my own Lasik experience. Back then, I entered the Laser Eye Center building dependent on thick glasses. Less than 24 hours later, I  had 20/15 vision. In less than a day, I went from being unable to read a giant digital clock since age 7, to reading the ingredients on a shampoo bottle.

It got me thinking, if only all development was so quick and noticeable. But that kind of drastic improvement is rare (not to mention expensive and risky).

In the absence of sudden conversions, we’re often blind to our own progress until someone comments, “Hey, have you lost a few pounds?” or “You seem happier.” or “You’re listening better.” One group-coaching participant recently said to a peer, “You seem calmer in meetings.” She didn’t fully appreciate this new way of being until he named it. At the program’s end, she said that his comment was one of the most memorable and affirming moments. When others notice, our improvement becomes more real.

Reflecting Brilliance

Over the course of a few months with a coach, participants re-invent themselves gradually but certainly. One of the most important things a coach does is hold up the mirror and acknowledge real changes.

One of the greatest gifts we can give others–colleagues, friends, family– [Read more...]

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Battle Hymn of the Tiger Manager?

by Denise Green | Developing Others, Emotional Intelligence, Employee Engagement, Leadership, Relationship & Trust, Science of Leadership Comments | 0

Tiger Parenting

As if we parents needed more reason to worry about how we might be ruining our children, Amy Chua comes along and writes Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother (Why Chinese Mothers are Superior). Her very restrictive parenting methods got her mixed results: one daughter on stage at Carnegie Hall, another so resentful she would have divorced her mother if she could.

Dr. Mac Hicks. offers a great analysis that helped assuage my angst (a bit). According to Hicks, one of the key problems with this approach: “The Tiger Mother philosophy is blind to the concept of individual differences.”

In a recent client conversation, it struck me that management theory shares much in common with the Tiger Mother approach to motivation.

After receiving an onslaught of criticism, Chua admits that she was not attuned to her daughters’ uniqueness. In subsequent interviews, Chua explains that A-grades are not what Chinese parenting is about; rather, they help children be the best they can be. Surely a noble goal.

Tiger Management

Tiger Managers are not bad people. They just aren’t very effective motivators. While they may want to bring out the best in their employees, their methods leave employees discouraged and potentially resentful.

You already know what the worst Tiger Managers look like. They enforce strict policies, treat people uniformly with little regard for individual preferences or strengths, micromanage, and are quick to find fault.

Yet, some Tiger Management behaviors are less obvious.

Here are just a few ways that well-meaning companies and managers crush souls: [Read more...]

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Conversation Training Wheels

by Denise Green | Authenticity, Communication, Developing Others, Emotional Intelligence, Employee Engagement, Leadership, Relationship & Trust Comments | 1

What Now?

In our last post, The TAO of Leadership (Annoying Truths: Ignore at Your Peril) we presented 7 truths (and one bonus truth) that, if internalized, will help you become a leader others want to follow.

Accept that you will forget all these truths at times – perhaps several times a day. That’s the bad news. The good news is that you have access to…

Conversation Training Wheels

You don’t have to be perfect to create a safe, inspiring environment that evokes brilliant commitment and performance. You just have to ask good questions.

Ask these questions to anyone you want to inspire or build relationship with: (Note, these are not in a sequential flow: insert as relevant into your conversation).

- “What support do you need from me?”

- “What ideas do you have?”

- “How did you come to that conclusion?”

- “How’s it working?”

- “How can you tell?”

- “What could I do better?”

- “What else?”

Note: 2 rules apply when asking these questions. [Read more...]

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The Tao of Leadership (aka Annoying Truths: Ignore at Your Peril) Revisited

by Denise Green | Communication, Emotional Intelligence, Employee Engagement, Leadership, Optimal Results, Our Favorites, Relationship & Trust Comments | 1

Become a Leader Worth Following

Ponder Your Leadership Capability

We’re revisiting a post we published last September, updating it with resources to  help you become a leader who inspires brilliance. We’ve combed thousands of pages from Goleman, Drucker, Neuroleadership, Monty Python (and more) and hope you enjoy.

7 Annoying Truths

1. Despite your past successes, vast experience, diplomas, and credentials, you possess a pathetically small sliver of the truth.

2. People fear you (by nature of your status) and withhold information that may challenge your pathetically small sliver of the truth.  This is a bad thing unless you like learning about your product’s failure from the Wall Street Journal.

3. To bring out the best in others, you must go out of your way to create a safe environment.  Fear is the brain’s default reaction to stress, uncertainty, status, and a million other things outside your control.

4. Leadership takes courage. Courage probably doesn’t look like what you think it looks like. The root of the word means “heart.” True courage does not swagger but is humble and authentically confident. A courageous leader:

- recognizes her own strengths and weaknesses

- surrounds herself with people who differ

- when confronted with evidence that challenges her truths, says “Say more about that” in a non-murderous tone

- is confident they will get there without knowing exactly how

- sets a compelling vision and let’s others figure out the best way to do it

- listens intently, openly

- describes reality neutrally, without accusation

- admits to self that leadership is lonely and finds people to provide support and a good sounding board

(to see how courageous–or swaggering–you are, check out this confidence assessment)

5. You are contagious: your mood, your work-life habits, your tone, your management style, your hygiene habits–all of it embeds itself in others and helps create a culture.

6. Leadership takes stamina and resilience. You cannot do your job optimally without a healthy body and mind. To that end, find support to help you:

- stay fit physically

- optimize your brain

- manage your emotions and physical reactions

- strengthen your immune system

- sleep well

7. There is a point in your rise as a leader (e.g. from Manager of individual contributors to Manager of Managers), where everything that has worked for you will now work against you. Recognize when you cross this threshold and get a coach to help you learn new tricks and embed new habits.

Bonus Annoying Truth [Read more...]

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